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Loving with mind, heart and soul!

Hello guys.

Today I will continue the post about mathew 22:34-38 :

34 But when the Pharisees heard that He had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. 35 Then one of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, 36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”37 Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’38 This is the first and great commandment.”

I started writing about how we can love God with all our HEARTS and now, I’m going to talk about what it means to love God with all our “mind and soul”.

First of all, I want to say: this is not the only answer to that question, it’s just something that God put in my heart and I want to share with you, so keep your mind open!

This is a really deep subject and for me, learn to love God with all my soul was a big CHALLENGE! But He is so patient ,loving and faithful that He helped me in every step of this path.

Our soul it’s basically our “psychological package”: it’s where our thoughts, feelings and worldview stands, which impacts(and form) our identity. What makes we behave the way we do, impacting how we face all sort of situations in life.

So, loving God with all our thoughts, feelings, dreams, actions and so on, it’s kind of basis of what means to be a christian. It’s challenging, but it’s a process.

The psyche of men it’s constantly “bombed”with all kind of (useless) information.

As we grow, we learn through experience, examples and some teaching what means, for example, to be a good person.

Based in what you saw, heard and experienced you gonna define what it’s to be good, right? That it’s the trick part.

I believe most of people in the world had some real BAD experiences in life, like disappointment, be abandoned or lose someone.

That leaves a mark in our soul and affects the way we face our reality and situations through life.

Futhermore, we can add what we learned with our family, at school, with friends and people that surround us.

All that, will impact in a bad or good way our feelings, thoughts and point of view, that leads us to decisions.

These experiences are what makes us (believe) who we are and form our principles and worldview, most of the time.

Why am I saying all that?

Because when we FINALLY CHOOSE to TRUST and experience the LOVE OF GOD, in a personal and deep way, we are carrying all that stuff, wich definitely, affects our beliefs about who we are,our identity and also, who we think HE IS.

Loving God with all we are requests some time to trust in Him, to letting go of all the things that will get in the way of our love for Him!

It’s a process of learn again how to look at the world, and most important, how to look INSIDE of US with HIS EYES. Rediscovering what it’s true, what it’s REAL and what it’s not.

In my life, for example, I needed to learn, first of all, what it means to TRUST deeply in someone( who loves me), cause I did not knew what was that. I was always protecting myself from disappointment, always distrusting of people’s good intentions.

I had to went through a deep JOURNEY to know what means to be loved by a loving and good FATHER, who was waiting for a closing relationship with me!

Love with all your SOUL means you gonna have to STOP TRUSTING LIES about yourself, like “you are not worthy”, “you never gonna make it” or “you are not loved”.

The good news is: you can choose to do it everyday, with a big help of your heavenly Father.

And at last(but not least) you will learn how to love God with all your mind!

It’s kind of the “end” of this process. It’s when you trully understood who He is, you allowed Him to enter into your HEART; You said YES to the journey of rediscovering, learning everyday who you are and most important, who He is: a loving and good father.

It’s by the word of God and a close relationship with Him that you will build a SOLID FOUNDATION to understand your faith and go through life, trusting Him everytime.

Loving God with all YOUR MIND, It’s when you went deeper, everyday, in the truth of the Word and, you can finally see that it’s real, cause you proved and lived it.

Then, when you understand, you will explain to others, calling them, based on your own experiences and on the Word, showing why you decided to go through this path!

When you learn how to love God with all your heart, mind and soul, you finally are a mature disciple of Christ, and you can invite others to choose this path of LIFE IN ABUNDANCE and peace that goes beyond understanding.

That is what will make the second commandment possible: Love your neighboor as yourself!

Life´s history

“Se que eu falasse as línguas dos homens e dos anjos, mas não tivesse amor…”

Hoje, eu passei por um episódio que já é meio comum na minha vida. Estava sentada com a minha filha ajudando-a com o dever de casa de matemática. E acabei ficando estressada.

Tudo começou quando ela errou um desenho que deveria ser a representação de um determinado ângulo e aí descobrimos que ela tinha perdido a borracha. Briguei com ela! “Filha, por que você sempre perde suas coisas? Você tem que ser mais cuidadosa com o seu material” (toda semana é alguma coisa do material que some).

Depois, ela começou a fazer os desenhos de forma desorganizada no caderno e reclamei de novo: “você tem que organizar o raciocínio! Ta tudo bagunçado, o professor não vai entender o que você fez”.

Isso acontece com freqüência quando sento pra fazer a lição com ela! Reclamo da falta de organização ou porque ela tá relaxada com a lição e sempre falo “eu nunca fui assim na escola, sempre fui organizada!”

Enfim, depois disso, ela terminou a lição e nós duas terminamos estressadas. Resolvi então tirar um tempo com Deus e perguntei pra Ele “Pai, o que eu faço pra lidar com essa situação? Não consigo não me estressar com essa postura da Gi em relação à escola!”

E logo ele respondeu “você tem que deixar ela errar! Qual o problema? Faz parte do processo!”. Quando comecei a ler a bíblia me deparei com 1 Coríntios 13, que fala sobre as características do amor:

4O amor é paciente e bondoso. O amor não é ciumento, nem presunçoso. Não é orgulhoso,nem grosseiro. Não exige que as coisas sejam à sua maneira. Não é irritável, nem rancoroso. Não se alegra com a injustiça, mas sim com a verdade. O amor nunca desiste, nunca perde a fé, sempre tem esperança e sempre se mantém firme.Um dia, profecia, línguas e conhecimento desaparecerão e cessarão, mas o amor durará para sempre” (1 Coríntios 13:4-8)

Deus estava me dando uma dica! (e um puxão de orelha!rs) : “Primeiro, não projete as suas expectativa na sua filha,sobre como e quem ela deve ser, ela tem suas próprias características e habilidades, ela não é você.

Em segundo lugar, o amor “não exige as coisas à sua maneira. Não é irritável, nem rancoroso”. Ame a sua filha, independente de como você enxerga o comportamento dela!

Um relacionamento de confiança é mais importante do que ela suprir as suas expectativas de desempenho, de certo ou errado. Ela é uma pessoa com personalidade e características únicas e vai aprender errando, cabe à você dar a ela todo suporte e amor necessários, o resto são detalhes do processo de aprendizagem!”

Acontece que, eu sempre fui uma pessoa perfeccionista e, às vezes, a busca pela perfeição me cega e eu me distancio do que realmente importa: relacionamento, confiança e aprendizado. Deus tem me ensinado muito sobre isso!

Eu li algo eu um livro (acho que foi no “Evangelho maltrapilho”) que agora faz muito sentido: era Deus falando aos seus filhos “ eu espero mais erros de você,do que você mesmo!”

Ele sabe que vamos errar, e é tolerante no nosso desenvolvimento como filhos. Ele sabe que  sem erros não há aprendizado e crescimento! E há graça suficiente no amor de Deus para conosco, que cobre todas as nossas falhas e tropeços!

Então hoje, essa foi minha lição como mãe: amar mais e criticar menos! Me inspirar mais no amor infinito e tolerante do Pai! De nada adianta nos esforçarmos para sermos corretos e irrepreensíveis, se não houver amor.

Obrigada pelo aprendizado Senhor, não sei o que seria de mim sem a Sua graça infinita! =)

“Agora, vemos de modo imperfeito,como um reflexo no espelho,mas então veremos tudo face a face…

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If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal…”

Today, I lived an episode that is quite a common in my life. I was sitting with my daughter helping her with math homework! And I ended up getting stressed with her.

It all started when she made a mistake drawing that was supposed to be the representation of a  angle, and then we discovered that she had lost the eraser. I said to her “why do you always lose your things? You have to be more careful with your school stuff “(every week is something that disappears of her bag).

Then she began to make the drawings all disorganized in her notebook, then I complained again: “you have to organize the reasoning! It’s all messed up, the teacher will not understand what you did”.

This kind of situation happens a lot, almost every time I sit with her to help with the homework! Claiming the lack of organization or because she is sloppy with the school things! I always say to her “I’ve never been like this in school, I’ve always been organized!”

Anyway, after all, she finished her homework and we both ended up stressed. Then, I decided to spend some time with God, and  I asked Him “Father, what should I do to deal with this situation? I cannot avoid be stressed with my daughter´s attitude related to school!”

And soon he replied “you have to let her make mistakes! What’s the matter? It’s part of the learning process!”. And when I started reading the bible, I came across 1 Corinthians 13:

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or smug.  Is not proud, not rude. It does not require things to be its way. Love is neither irritable nor spiteful. It rejoices not in unrighteousness, but in truth. Love never gives up, never loses faith, always has hope and always stands firm. One day, prophecy, tongues and knowledge will disappear and cease, but love will last forever.”

God was giving me a tip!  “First, do not project your expectations on your daughter, about how or who she should be,she has her own characteristics and abilities! She is not you. Second, love “does not require things in its own way. It is not irritable or spiteful ” so, love your daughter regardless of how you see the whole situation, of what you expect!

A relationship of trust is more important than fulfill your expectations about her performance . She is a person with unique personality and traits and she will learn by making mistakes.

It is up to you to give her all the support and love she need, the rest are just details of the learning process! “

I’ve always been a perfectionist, but sometimes the pursuit of perfection blinds me and I distance myself from what really matters: relationship, trust, learning. God has taught me so much about it!

I read something in a book (I think it was in the “Ragamuffin Gospel”) that now makes too much sense to me : it was God speaking to his children “I expect more mistakes from you, than yourself!”

He knows that we are going to make mistakes, and he is patient in our development as sons and daughters. He knows that without failure there is no learning and growth! And there is grace enough in God’s love for us, which covers all our faults and stumbles!

So today, this was my lesson as a mother: criticize less and LOVE MORE!

Learning from the infinite and graceful love of the Father! It is useless to strive to be right and blameless if there is no love.

Thank you, for your patience to teach me, Lord! I don´t know what I would become without Your infinite grace in my life =)

” For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.